My wife is involved with another man. Her big dilemma, once the D is final, is how to "bring this guy out" without everybody knowing she was fooling around on me. See, he is her dream man and she is proud of the fact she has "traded up." Good luck with that one, hun. Her family is gonna know. The neighbors are gonna know. People at church are gonna know. And, most importantly, our kids are gonna know that her unfaithfulness led to the destruction of our family. She can't talk her way out of that one (like she thinks she can). She is treading on thin ice, as they may harbor anger about this for years.
Right now, just a few of her friends know she is cheating on me. Because of our marital difficulty, several family members on both sides suspect she is being unfaithful (they have asked me - I denied it for her sake). And I have told nobody.
Oh, one more thing... WAW and OM are colleagues, and most people they work with know (I don't really have confirmation, but we all know how word spreads with people we work with). The affair was brought to my attention by one of these colleagues.
