CVA - "Back in Shape"

[Nomopo]

Well, you can always let it go, and that is probably safe. When in doubt, don't act. But you may have a chance for some healing, connection, growth here. And to demonstrate change.

Let me ask you what you think got her so upset. She sounded pretty upset in your post. Was she? And assuming so, was it because

him staying w/ me would cause a problem

which is what you apologized for already (last night), or

she may think I am trying to manipulate our son

or

I try to control her going to see her family and make her feel guilty for going.

or was it because she felt like you undercut her authority/plans/decisions with S9 and didn't discuss it with her. (This last one was what I thought of.)

If you know why she is upset, apologize for it if you haven't already. If you don't know, give her a chance to tell you. And if she won't open up to your invitation, tell her you wonder if it was x or y and see if she agrees.

I had something like this in my sitch. I suggest reviewing my journal entry and other thoughts about it. This happened a few days after we started our S. Here is the link: See the 6/13/07 11:59 pm post. There might also be some nuggets in the follow-up posts (eg, 6/14/07 at 11:42).

Hope it helps,
Nomo
Nomo