jackw...sounds all to familiar except that my H didn't get upset when I began talking to an OM...he just asked his religion and whether he was a good man or not...like I would go out with a jerk.....
it didn't seem to phase him in the least...and this was after he had been gone for well over a year and D had been filed for the second time...
He told me he would have gone through with it all and been my friend for life because he didn't feel he deserved forgiveness and that he didn't deserve to interfere with my happiness and moving on...
BUT...*notice that is a big BUT*...when I delayed the divorce...quit with OM...and just let things be with myself because I realized that I wasn't really really ready to move on...it was few months and he moved back to town....and few months more and we started "dating"...the rest is now history...
So you W might be thinking she has really lost you...she made her attempt to get rid of the OW by telling her that you still loved your W...maybe if you stopped seeing anyone...gave it time...she might...but that really is up to you...for me it was worth it...maybe for you it isn't...
I also know many are afraid that their returning S won't change like they want...and initially it does seem very one-sided...but in all of this...with my changes...it has effected changes in H...and we are doing VERY well...it has been nearly 3 post bomb...2 1/2 years post PA...so I think we are fully on track now...but it took time...and being a lone...
Hope this gives a little insight that maybe you didn't have...take it for what it is worth to you...
