I think readjusting and evaluating needs to occur not only for hope in a M, but for ones personal pursuits as well.
Definitely! Interestingly, I have been wanting to move to Europe for about 3 years to further my career and have a cool experience for my family (travel, kids learn another language and experience a different culture). My W did not want to go even though she lived in Europe twice. I have no idea really what it is about other than control issue or maybe related to her depression/NMA.
In a strange co-incidence, the guy next to me on the plane back from Europe tried to get me to apply for a job managing product development for his company. I told him that I was not interested right now, but he sent me a description of the company and of the job and said that if I changed my mind or knew of someone else who "has the right attitude" and speaks German, I should let him know.
Maybe a 180 would be to go after this and other options in Europe and see where it takes me!
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I heard an interesting thing the other day from another marriage saving guru, that you should give it at least a year if not for this marriage for your next relationship. This made sense to me, but certainly is no easy task.
I completely agree, I am nowhere near done experimenting and trying to make sure that she has really made up her mind to exit our marriage. I think it is more about expectations and hope. I have so little expectation of her right now. I really am beginning to believe that this "new her" is here to stay (selfish, self-absorbed, superficial, depressed,???). Who really wants to be with that person? Not me. Sometimes I find myself wishing that OM would just take her!
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Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
