oh I am so sorry, mkultra. ouch. no words of wisdom, just understanding. and so sad that your daughter found out. yeah, honestly, your response to him was bitchy (after all, there is plenty stuff that is appropriate for adults to do, but not for kids to hear about). but I understand it. I understand the anger and the pain.
as for the rules of separation, they are whatever you set down together, based on the goals of separation. what I found out, unfortunately, was that it didn't matter what rules/bounderies we set down, H still broke them.
Keep Db'g yourself. worse comes to worse, you'll be stronger for it on your own. that's what I keep telling myself, anyway.
(((HUGS)))
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
