I say do not call with help or advice. I may be a little upset now, but they do not want to hear care from the person that is DBing. They may see caring as controlling or smothering. I am guilty of this and am paying dearly. My H actually just said, "I would not call you at 10PM for that info so don't call me." Jerk. Stuff that used to be normal for us to talk about (daycare, TV, sports, kids' milestones) is now a burden for him so I will drop it and try to avoid calling at all. The saddest part is no longer trading stories about the kids. My son is only two so there is a wonderful milestone all the time" a new phrase, potty training, a cute outfit. He is missing it all.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
