One of the keys of success it seems to me, and maybe Nomo has some thoughts on this, is that most of these relationships don't start to turn until we truly accept that the R might be over and really start believing that we'll be OK if that happens. You can't just say it, you've got to feel it. It stinks, and it's hard, and it doesn't mean that you've given up, but you'll get to the point where you'll continue to give it your best effort but know, deep down, that you'll be OK -- not just OK, but better than you have been in the past few years -- whichever way it goes. I think this removes the pressure from our partner and, combined with GAL, really places doubt in their mind about what they might be missing.
Oh yes! Great post H! Emotional detachment is KEY, and the sooner the better. And GALing helps with this and helps keep your mind from wondering to what WASs and OPs are doing? It helps keep the emotions in check.
Will, you will be ok (and even better than ok) regardless of what happens to your M/R and with your W. That is 100% TRUE. You just need to realize that if you haven't.
Nomo
PS - H, i have been following your sitch by BB email updates for over a week, and intend to jump in, but I haven't found the block of time to do it yet. But I ill, and I wanted you to know that. You have been a GREAT help to many others here (incluidng me) the last feww weeks, so I hope you feel good about that.
Take care of yourself. Please be careful. Feel free to drop me a line anytime as well.
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M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
