CVA - "Back in Shape"

[Nomopo]

Ok, buddy. Minor backslides. No biggies. Learn from the day, and then let it go. A few thoughts:

Well apparently so was W. S7 decided to join her in bed last night and with the late night, she was VERY tired today, uh oh.

Ok, so you know that going in. Prepare to ignore lots.

go to the mall, not much talking in the car, not like yesterday when everything was up and bubbly.

Frustrating, but not surprising. Especially since she was tired, but even if she wasn't . It will not be all positive. There will be pull backs, down days. Expect it, and don't let them affect you or your PMA.

Tell W I want a good one so I can keep up w. a friend and she says "your gonna kill yourself" THANKS, NICE VOTE OF CONFIDENCE HONEY.

I didn't take it that way at all, but i didn't hear the tone or see the face. Either way, who cares what she thinks about it. And as far as a positive, at least she is noticing what you're doing. (BTW, I got a good bike too. Maybe I can try to keep up on one of your rides?)

THe day really never got off the ground in terms of her in a good mood and unfortunately I let it get to me a bit and didnt have the greatest responses to her mood. Oh well, tomorrow is another day.

Good that you recognize your role, and yes tomorrow is another day.

TOnight was not perfect either.

Of course not.

He says he wants to stay with me andI really just said whatever he wanted to do was fine, just dont stay w/ me because he feels like I am sad.'

Can you see why your W might be upset. S is 9, so is it really just his call? Probably not. And I can see how she thought you undercut her here.

W comes dowm from upstairs and says S9 was upset about Dallas. She basically says, HE IS GOING, THAT IS IT! Well OK, I say, kinda hurt that I am not part of the decision process. Never got mad, it just seemed awkward.

Yep, she was pissed. Remember, your needs don't matter to her right now, so saying you were hurt probably didn't mean anything to her. And if you failed to validate her anger, yo missed an opportunity. But if you do see it now, you can do it tomorrow. Right? Better late than never. And don't make it a big deal. A quick comment/apology should suffice, or maybe an email.

Ended w/ a backrub anyway.

Hmmm. She really likes those, huh? How did it come about? Who initiated?

Tomorrow will be a good day. Period.

Atta boy! For you anyway, since that is who you control. You can't make her have a good day, but you can give her the opportunity, right?

Hope it helps,
Nomo