I gave it up for my W. I used to take time out for myself, fishing, workingout, having a beer with friends, that all went out the window during my M. I did not realize it but I feared screwing up by making her unhappy somehow. By doing so I screwed myself in a sense.
..and this is how we lost our N.U.T.S. We don't realize it. I think we just sorta get things leeched out slowly over time. The WAW then quietly 'leaves us' until we get notification by the bomb.
I am reading something 'posthumously'. Well..not really. I am reading the .pdf Stop Your Divorce. The guy talks about your W being a need vs. a desire/preference. Have you read it? The we need someone, the more we have stress and anxiety.
Anyway, as always, the apple never falls far from the tree. Continue to focus on those beautiful girls of yours.
To MnM....I'm gonna post at you if and when I get served. Thanks and I hope you'll have the patience for me.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
