I think you are definitely at a cross roads, as am I. You have things in perspective for yourself and kids and that is a good thing. I am also done with the do nothing and wait period. I think readjusting and evaluating needs to occur not only for hope in a M, but for ones personal pursuits as well. I heard an interesting thing the other day from another marriage saving guru, that you should give it at least a year if not for this marriage for your next relationship. This made sense to me, but certainly is no easy task. Glad you are getting some R and R, you deserve it. Being in a funk must be in the air, this week I have began mourning the loss of my M all over again, I am still confident that it can be rebuilt, but my W falls in the same category as yours. Not sure if she will be willing to do the work, who knows, but we all must do what is right for us and the rest will work itself out. One way or the other, but we will be stronger for taking this path.
