Wow, great 2x4! I'll have to read it again tomorrow, and again, and again. Been wondering If it's all worth it. Should have been wondering if I'm really trying.
Me 32 WAW 30 D Bomb 7/9 Separated 7/15 Reiterated bomb 8/12 PA 8/21 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1198643
I've been going through a bit of "Nomo Withdrawal" lately, so was glad to see that you posted.
Funny that in my post yesterday, a couple of hours before yours, I added a link to the same archived thread re;The "AS IF" ATTITUDE from EWE's post.
It puts it together in such a basic, easy to understand way, doesn't it?
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The net effect will be that you definitely will worry less, and worry contributes to ambiguity and poor decisions. You will worry less because you will have a much more accurate understanding of what is really going on in your relationship -- odds greatly favor it isn't near as bleak as it may appear -- and you will know you are dealing with it in a way that works. And, you will be happier because you will know down deep that you are doing the stuff that is best for you, and for your spouse and the marriage.
Agreed that the "worry" factor undermines the ability to practice DB skills in a big way. What is that quote you refer to sometimes, "Worrying is like praying for something to happen".
Nomo, the books? yes I recieved them and I do thank you.
You sent me an email after the books telling me a little more about yourself, and I tried to respond back to you with some things but I kept getting an error message. It finally seemed to go through, but I never heard back from you. Email me again at nomopo@hornfans.com or my office email if you have it (don't want to post it), and I will try again.
Hello dlt1 - welcome to my world!
Sunny, I have really struggled with getting back on the board and into people's sitches. At first I thought it was cause I had the kids for two weeks, but now I think I may be burned out or just tired and a little overwhelmed. Trying to, cause I want to help my friends and cause I want them to keep visiting me.
Thanks for the update on GD! I hope he is ok.
I am going to check in on some folks, and try to journal. I'm like 9 or 10 days behind on my journaling.
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
Burned out is probably right--you have to give your brain and heart and rest sometimes... We all go MIA for spurts, but I hope that you know that so many look for you :0)
Hey Nomo that for posting the article ewe found. Some good stuff in that! Happy to see you back.
Sunny you are right about the worry. One of my largest obstacles and I'm starting to realize just how much I do it. I always knew my mom was a big worrier but never really noticed it in myself until tis sitch when I've really tried to examine 'me'.
Nomo & Donna...yeah I think lot of people burn out now and again and go a little MIA. Sure know I have.
Me: 31; H: 30 Together 11y; M 8y H left: 2/1/07 My Thread 1st Thread
