Living with my WAW 3

[SuperDad]

Well, as Nomo now knows, I am back in the U.S. and taking 2 weeks of R&R. The rest of my trip was a good mix of work and fun. Wed. and Thurs. evenings I went out with colleagues from work. Thurs. we played indoor soccer, basically in a ice-hockey rink with turf down on the floor and a net overhead. After 90 min of that with a bunch of 25-30 year olds who grew up playing soccer everyday, I was lucky to still be standing! Anyway, it was a lot of fun and a great end to a long trip.

W had left the kids with my parents and driven up to be with her parents while her dad went in for surgery. He is 82 and the anethesiologist refused to put him under w/o a cardiologist sign off, so that did not happen and stressed her out.

Anyway, she picked up the kids on Sat. a.m. so I could go to my cousin's wedding reception. (She declined to attend and also was not interested in staying in town with any of my family.) She dropped them off again today and headed to Austin to meet her sister. She will stay the week there (presumably also meeting with OM as well). I have the kids and am staying with my parents for the week.

While here, we will meet up the Nomo one evening, play some golf (putput and the real kind), go to the family bayhouse, and maybe catch a ball game. Then, I am going to take them to my uncle's lake house next weekend before meeting her in Austin for a few days.

The time she was here, I was nice to her and did not talk about anything R related. I also gave her a t-shirt from Prague (also bought them for the kids and me). The boy's had a dog (for S8) and cat(for S6)on them as S8 loves dogs and S6 cats. Mine had abstract painting of the city and W's had a paint brushed heart on it. I just said that I hoped that they liked them (they all did). She mentioned that she was going to meet her sister for lunch in Austin and only stayed for a few minutes.

All of our conversations for the past two weeks have been VERY short and only covered logistics with kids, etc. She has made a point to keep it at this and end the conversations as short as possible. I have also made no attempt to extend them. Right now, I feel like she has responded to all of my efforts with relief that I am not trying to stay in her life, but nothing else. Every day that goes by, I care a little less about the outcome of this all and just want her to move on. Unfortunately, with no way to support herself, this is not going to happen any time soon. I am not sure if this is detachment or just acceptance that my wife is gone for good.

I am back to needing to finish my goal revision so I can decide what to do next. Doing Nothing does not appear to be having much of an effect. I worked on these quite a bit, but am not sure what I really need/want. Really I am right now more interested in goals related to my life and not so much on how my actions impact her. Again, if she follows, I will know that there is something left to work on. If not, then I will also know.

Alright, that ought to be enough for one post!!

Stay cool my friends,
SD