I can't give my children the traditional family I wanted to give them, but at least I have given them a home of peace. I never had this as a child. One thing I am happy about is that I know H and I will never try to turn the children against the other parent. As much as I hate what my H has done, he is just not that kind of person. I think we will always be able to parent separately but with the childrens' best interests at heart.
Yesterday I asked the childrens' doctor for a referral for them to see a counselor. I think they both could use someone independent to talk to at this point even though overall they seem to be doing well.
Dom R, maybe your wife is interacting with my H online. Wouldn't that be pathetic? I keep wanting to scream "You are throwing away your family for a GAME!"
My H announced he could not work on the marriage and needed to leave shortly before Valentine's Day. My goal this year is to get flowers for Valentine's Day, even if I have to buy them myself. I remember what H said on our first Valentine's Day together, 23 years ago. I said it was ok that he didn't get me anything because it was easy to forget. He said "I didn't forget. I just didn't get you anything." Lovely! Way to win a woman's heart!
Me45 H45 D13 S10 together-23 years married-21 years MLC Divorced 10/3/07 Married to a wonderful new man.
