My post last night was unclear: kudos for trying even as your W made plans to see OM. I'm with you, I couldn't continue were my wife to continue/restart the A she had. No judgement from me about it being over for you.
Sorry things worked out like this for you. Keep posting. Miss the humor, even though I'm sure not much seems funny right now for you.
Best,
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY