I really think that although it seemed horrible, you still had H saying he wanted to work on it. That is still a good thing. Plus the fact that he wants to go to C. He's got a problem, and for him to admit that he has a problem and is willing to go to a C about it is still a big step. I'm sure the reason he keeps saying he's not good enough is because of his guilt. Who knows what has happened. Maybe nothing. I think being prepared for that- when you are ready- would be a wise thing to do.
Nikki, I know this is really tough, but you really need to detach again. And please don't move out of the house. If you need to, have a little vacation. you don't even need to tell H your staying in town. What happened to that house sitting? Can you still do that?
I don't know if this will help or not, but think about how difficult it probably was for H to try and "break up" with you in the first place. I mean, if it was easy, it would have been quick, but it was a long drawn out sitch going on last year. Well, now he's "suppose" to "break up" with someone else. I'm sure part of him wants to, but between his "addiction" and guilt of hurting her too is just something he is avoiding. I know it's not an excuse, but we have to realize that it is not an easy thing for them to do.
Focus on taking care of yourself this week. Take a break from all the thinking. hope to hear a good post next.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
