Sorry to hear about the meltdown.

Let me tell you where I am, and tell me if you are here as well:
I am moving toward that point of indifference. I am beginning to start to think about how nice it will be to be away from her and away from all of her sh*t. This is not limited to the affair with OM. It's really every single bad habit that she has drive me crazy. As much as I want to patch things up for the sake of our kids, I am now seeing more and more that there will be good that comes to me no matter what happens. Hey, don't get me wrong. I will continue to DB up to the end. I will go down fighting - my kids deserve it. But, wow, to be free of all the crap that she brings to our relationship and our household will be a relief. I guess the foundation of this thought is the concept that I indeed deserve much better that what she currently offers.

Are you at this point?