Also I wanted to mention, that I read he stopped with her for 6 weeks and is now talking more. Chances are this Boyfriend of hers is a ploy to lure him back, only he can figure that out, but it is clear this is a desperate move by her.
I don't justify him falling back into the routine at all. You have needs that aren't being met, but unless you re focus and start giving reasons verbal and noverbal as to why what you guys have is so much better than the other, than I fear he will slip.
Mostly because I don't believe he has processed this very well and needs some time. Let me also say it appears you have given alot to make it work and I do admire the efforts you put forth.
Let me ask a question, since I am kind of in the same boat as your hubby minus the fact I don't communicate at all with the former OW. Why is it the LBS shy's away from affection and seems to be more interested in doing their own thing than doing things together?
Last how do you break it. For instance I say I love you to my W. she will say it back, if I say I miss you she will say it back. If I don't say it within a couple of conversations, she comments "you seem weird today?" Then she says not mean just weird, she is referring to me not calling or showing verbal affection. What do you make of that?
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
