I would just let the birthday pass, and let him wonder why you didn't remember it. After all, you might be just too busy GAL to even think of it.
But the nice thing to do is send a Happy Birthday, just like you would an old friend. With the same expectations.
Mickey
I disagree.
Remember, these men are not in their right minds and they have a tendency to forget many things and are under an enormous amount of guilt. I believe it is important to keep up the way we always have and that means if we were always acknowledging birthdays, then send a card. Do not change just because they are in MLC.
It is also important for them to know that we still exist because when all is said and done and the LBS sticks it out, they will be thankful that we were there standing by. They know who the strong person is right now (not them but the LBS!) and they need a reassurance every once in awhile even though they may not need us right now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
