I've been going through a bit of "Nomo Withdrawal" lately, so was glad to see that you posted.
Funny that in my post yesterday, a couple of hours before yours, I added a link to the same archived thread re;The "AS IF" ATTITUDE from EWE's post.
It puts it together in such a basic, easy to understand way, doesn't it?
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The net effect will be that you definitely will worry less, and worry contributes to ambiguity and poor decisions. You will worry less because you will have a much more accurate understanding of what is really going on in your relationship -- odds greatly favor it isn't near as bleak as it may appear -- and you will know you are dealing with it in a way that works. And, you will be happier because you will know down deep that you are doing the stuff that is best for you, and for your spouse and the marriage.
Agreed that the "worry" factor undermines the ability to practice DB skills in a big way. What is that quote you refer to sometimes, "Worrying is like praying for something to happen".
