There and Back

[SallyM]

okay, so my first thread actually locked already. Time for a new one (and a new title). here's the link to the original thread: first thread

25yearsmlc, to answer you on the other thread, I can see where the confusion lies. my h hasn't told ME yet that he wants this to be over, that he wants a divorce. yes, he's shown me in some ways, but he hasn't actually told me, and in every R talk we've had, he's told me he isn't ready for it to be over. My panic (and yes, I know I have several of them) is that he does actually know what he wants, and is telling everyone but me. Now, he may not be doing this, but lets just say I have a vivid imagination and a very strong fear of this. and not only that, but of him telling lies about how/why. NO, I don't expect him to ever tell others, especially those he works with, that he is having an affair with OW. But I also don't want to be the villain. granted, I can't control him, and in his mind, at least until he actually accepts responsibility for real for his own actions, I am. so trying to let that go.

I do have a lawyer. I actually had a meeting with 2 different ones, and am pretty clear on where I stand and what I need to do. I did this back in april, and unfortunately did tell him...I was so ready to make everything easy for him, and also maybe scare him a bit (didn't really work, that part). I know he talked to a lawyer himself in response to my getting one. It was kind of funny, actually, when I brought up a conversation with my lawyer he seemed shocked that I had talked to one at all...told me "I haven't even talked to a lawyer!" umm, like I was supposed to wait for him or something?

anyway, thanks for the support and the kick in the butt, 25yearsmlc. I'm sad for your sister. Both of them, but especially the one who couldn't let go. That is awful, and I promise I won't let myself go that route, as hard as it is.

now to answer your question, linking is easy.

1)right click and copy the address in the address bar of your original thread.

2) when you start your new thread, just click the little "create a link" button (below the smilies, on the far left, looks like the earth on a paper clip).

3after you click the button, there will be a prompt to enter the address of the link...paste it right in there and hit enter (or whatever the button says)

4) you will then get a prompt as to what you want the link to say. type in whatever title you want to give it, and hit enter (or whatever the button says)

ta-dah! should work, if you have any problems/questions, I'll be happy to help. I'm almost giddy with the idea of helping you with anything, you've been so wonderful to me here.