Scaredagain, I know you didn;t ask for my advice, but I will offer it none the less. I want to say this to Lissie as well; Ladies, you must give yourself time to heal from what you have been through. Neither one of you have done that yet. I know how easy it is to fall for someone, especally after you have been hurt and are hurting. I understand completely where you both are comming from with this. Don't worry about what anyone thinks about what you have done or didn;t do, to hell with them! Ladies, please give yourselves at least a year to process things and to really heal from your emotional wounds before you consider pursuing another relationship. Use this time to reflect on your past marriage, look at the things you did well, and look at the things you didn;t do well. Improve on the things you didn;t do well when you enter a new relationship. Ladies, after you have taken the time to heal, take your time in getting into a new relationship, be friends for awhile first, see if someone can be your friend for awhile before it goes somewhere else. Just my advice to you both, I hope I didn;t make you mad by butting in, but I thought I would throw my thoughts on this out there to you both.
