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Ah well he hasn't in the last couple weeks.

I don't know though can you count the night we went to the hospital and when I took him back to his car he just sat in the van and talked? If that counts then... the whole time he was sitting there I had my hand on his arm or leg or hand.... I just see that as his grandma is dying and he's full of emotions and I'm the one that happened to be there.


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Even if it is because of a sad event, I would still take touching her arm, hand or leg while just talking. Been a month I think since I even got a hug.


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Yeah I haven't had any kind of touch since he left in May. Up until that night.

You know he told me a guy he knows parents divorced when he was a kid. At the time he was confused and didn't know why. But when he got older he appreciated the fact that they chose to divorce instead of having him grow up in a house where they were always fighting and arguing. He told me this trying to say maybe this is what is best for the kids. Difference is we don't fight and argue all the time...


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Originally Posted By: sadhearted
You know he told me a guy he knows parents divorced when he was a kid. At the time he was confused and didn't know why. But when he got older he appreciated the fact that they chose to divorce instead of having him grow up in a house where they were always fighting and arguing. He told me this trying to say maybe this is what is best for the kids. Difference is we don't fight and argue all the time...


In ten years I can count any kind of actual argument on one hand. None of them even really were about anything important, usually just one of us being stubborn.


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Exactly!!!

If he was trying to make a point he sure missed. No one I know thinks us divorcing is the best. And they all think we're supposed to be together. Course the only one that counts doesn't think that or at least from what I can see or hear.


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Originally Posted By: sadhearted
Exactly!!!

If he was trying to make a point he sure missed. No one I know thinks us divorcing is the best. And they all think we're supposed to be together. Course the only one that counts doesn't think that or at least from what I can see or hear.


Most people kept saying that about us also, especially after I came out with my past and quit drinking. That is still what really gets me, of all the times to give up, she picks this time period.


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Yeah I've noticed their timing stinks. First time we seperated was a week before thanksgiving for 2 months. This time it was 3 days before mothers day and a week before my b day. So far still going. Our 10 year anniversary is the 9th of next month. What a way to celebrate huh.


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Are falling out came with our 10th anniversary. What a start for the 11th year, or a sad ending for our 10th. Time will tell.

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I know if he decides on D at some point I will be okay. I don't want to be okay. I want to be happy with my H. And I just don't know how to get the I'm okay no matter what attitude. Having a tough time with that one.


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That part I am really not having issues with, I know I will live and be fine. It is just that I don't want that because I still do love her and know in my heart it can work out if she would just let it.


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