I managed to get the curve piece of the pipe off. Nothing in it... I ran the water it runs for a few seconds then starts backing up. Takes awhile for it to drain but it does eventually. I'M NO PLUMBER!!!!!
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
I got a call from my SIL little bit ago. My H's grandma had fluid around her lungs yesterday so they did the procedure to drain it. From what I hear the pain was so bad it knocked her out for 12 hours. Earlier this week she had fluid around her heart which they took care of. She has told them she is done. They are sending her home tomorrow. They will have someone come out to try to help with her pain but it's just a matter of time now.
I tried calling my H because I had seen him earlier and had asked him about her so I know he doesn't know. Well he didn't answer his phone. He hardly ever answers when I call which has only been for his grandma and maybe one other thing. So I ended up leaving him a message. So far I haven't heard back from him. May not. He may just call his SIL to get the info.
Damn this is so hard. I know she's his grandma but I love her and have always thought of her as family. I want to be there for my H because she's the only one in his family he still talks too. I don't think he's going to let me be there though. This is just so hard. Her funeral will probably be up in IL where she's from and where her husband is buried. Which if that's the case I'm not sure how I'm going to arrange that or if I'll be welcome.
And here I was going to come on and post that my H had stopped by after work to see the kids. Hung out for about 20 minutes then left. Not much interaction between us but it was nice to see him playing with the kids. Also sad because he's not here.
Going to have myself a good cry. Just hope to get the kids to bed before I do.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
Well today has been pretty down. I'm incrediable sad about his grandma. I haven't heard from H today so I don't know how he's holding up. Can you be numb and sad at the same time? Seems to be the best way to describe how I'm feeling. I wish there was something I could do for my H. Someway to comfort him. But how can I if he won't let me? Guess I can't. We don't really know how much longer she has. If she keeps getting fluid built up then my guess is not too long. I'm debating whether I want to go see her tomorrow. I mean we pretty much said our goodbyes on Tuesday when we went to the hospital. Still may go see her. Might see if my H would be interested in going with me or if he's all ready been or what. This sucks.
He said as much last night. Said life sucks and he just needs to figure out how to get used to it.
What a sad miserable day.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
Sorry you are having a bad day. If nothing else go see grandma by yourself. I do hear you about being numb and sad at the same time, that pretty much describes how I feel at the moment.
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I'm thinking about going tomorrow. I sent him an email this afternoon to see how he was doing and to say if he's interested I may be going tomorrow. So far haven't heard a word out of him. Kinda worried about him. I talked to his bro just a bit ago and as far as he knows he didn't go see her today. She's home now. So it's a matter of time.
If your feeling like me then I'm sorry. This just...stinks.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
Yeah I can go alone. Told my BIL I was thinking about going down tomorrow and he said yeah you should.
I know if my H won't let me I can't do anything for him. I mean my head knows that my heart is trying to figure out if there's something anything I can do for him.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
Yeah probably will as long as my mom can sit with my kids. Don't really want to take them to see her like that. My S3 doesn't really know who she is and S7 hasn't seen her in a couple years either. I don't think they need to see her like she is now.
Like I said my head knows that. I also think even if he wanted me there his pride may get in the way of him actually telling me. Cause as he always says of late he's not supposed to lean on me now.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
