Lissett if you are out there...............

[Lissie]

I could not for the life of me, find my old password. (sigh)

Hi, I think i know exactly who you are.

I miss your updates, and I am so very sorry about your grandmother.

Thank you , I miss her so much, I can't put it into words.

I became a better mother b/c of you.

You became a better mom, all b/c of you sweetie.

If you can please post here. And tell me what I should do.

I am no one to tell you what to do, I can tell you my own experience, and give you some sort of advice, that is only my Point of view.

I think that your H filed, last year, and never really did any touch and goes. He left you for the OW, and didn't look back. I am sorry mamma, I know how that feels.

I know you really fell in love with the Married man from the board. I know that his wife is one that comes and goes.

I know that this married man, tells you he is done with his wife, and then goes back to her.

And you are there as his friend, but also kinda just waiting.

I am so very sorry. I am so very sorry, b/c you have to get this heart ache again, and so soon.



I know you felt so horrible, you also did not want to become what we read about here. YOu did not want to become some OW. It was the last thing you ever thought could happen. I don't see you that way.

I do have this advice for you, let him go.

Do the NC.

YOu need to grieve this. Remember he is home with his wife. And within a few days. His, I love you words, will be just that words. A memory for you.

He will fall back in love with his wife, in no time. And you will be removed from his heart and his mind.

And I know that hurts. You can do it. YOu did it once before, you can do it again.

Your mind will focus on other things soon.

Be an example from now on, not to let yourself "fall" for someone that is married, even tho they convince you it is over.

You need to be divorced, and given some time, and they need to be divorced and give them some time.

You will go thru all the stages, heart ache, anger, shock. It is all the same.

I am sorry.

But it is a lesson that we are learning, and it is a hard one. But hey, look, I can give this advice now, and hopefully, someone will listen, and think twice before taking that leap.

You will be ok again. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty b/c your divorce is going to happen.

Don't let anyone make you feel like a quitter.

Leave him alone. You should be number 1. You should have someone that is all yours. He never did file lovey, that should tell you something. It was not as serious for him as maybe it was for you.

You are sweet for reaching out to me. I am sorry you are so torn up about this, that you felt you had to change your username, but I totally understand it.

Focus on those babies, just think you will be so much aware now.



Hope this helps.


Lissett