Lessons from a former WAS

[chele]

I too am in this same boat, my H told me he wanted to separate 17/7/07 and I had no idea. We actually live apart due to work situation, (he is Navy), He has been back twice since once to talk to me in person as he told me over the phone and he said he felt guilty for doing that. I organised a counceling session and he went along but wasn't interested in doing anymore as its a waste of time. He came back yesterday to get more of his things and try and sort out financial problems. He has lost a lot of weight and looks very sad and depressed. He said he was very uncomfortable coming back. I did all the "right" things, stayed positive, no R talk, only got teary a little bit but controlled it and gave him what ever he wanted out of the house. I did tell him what I expected financially and he said he would pay whatever he had to. He did give me a long hug when he left, and we are now on good speaking terms as he wouldn't answer my calls before. What do I do next?? He won't be coming back here still september, unless I move before then, and then he has to come back as we are in a military house.
Any suggestions will be great.