what to do? I have been trying to act as if as of late. My W is asking me what is wrong. I tell her I am fine, but what I really want to do is sit her down and talk. I believe right now she is confused about what she wants to do. Sometimes she thinks it would be easier for her to stay. She wants to leave but it's not in the cards for her right now. I know she is depressed because she can't leave and she thinks the world is working against her.
What do I do next time she asks me what is wrong? Do I say nothing and keep it moving. Or do I sit her down and tell her that I can't stand having to look at you and know you don't want to be here any longer. I can't take it that to you are still wanting to be with a man who dropped you nine months ago. It's hard for me to have to co-exist in this same house with you because you don't have a job that affords you the ability to move like you want to. I don't understand why we can't work on this until you can move out. We had a good counselor before you decided to end it this time. I believe we were making progress. I know I have some issues but I am working on those. you have some that you are working on too. I supported you through everything. And now you are giving up on me? doesn't seem right. And now you are talking to another man who has been trying to get with you since the last man dropped you. Don't you think once he learns about your personal issues he is going to leave also. I am the one that is here. I am the one that wants to be here for you. No matter what you are going through. Things can get better.
Yeah, I know I can't say these things. That is not effective DBing. But it should would feel good if I can say those things and then have a breakthrough. But next time she asks, what do I say. Can I say you have been looking good and I really want to ML to you in the worse way?
I guess what I am asking is, next time she asks if i am okay, or is everything alright, what do I say.
