I agree...if step-MIL can help with WAW father facilitating things then this might indeed make W think...and it isn't like you asked them to do anything more then to consider their own actions in all of this...
So...how can you get a M annulled if you are the one who is having the A and your S isn't???...Wouldn't she have to find proof that you committed adultery?
imLIN: Thanks for your support. I have no idea the process of annulment in the Catholic church. It's not like I get the annulment and she doesn't. It just states that the marriage never occurred. This permits divorced Catholics to re-marry without the stain of adultery. Now that I think about it, I'm not really sure why she is concerned with annulment. The stain of adultery didn't bother her 8 months ago...
TAL: Thanks for your support. Still feel depressed.... haven't had a chance to get out and run. Wife is out of town with her girlfriends (well, that's what she told me...).
Another question...(I am not Catholic, btw) but I was always told unless you got married in the Church it wasn't considered a "real marriage" and so you could get divorced and remarry without an annulment...also, I was told that if you married a non-Catholic that it didn't count either...and it sounds like you may not be Catholic???...Also...I would agree with you that the "stain" she is concerned with is already there...
From what I have been told by other Catholics is that if you marry in the Church it is real...and if you get divorced then you would need an annulment to remarry in the Church again...but one of the spouses would have to be non-Catholic or commit adultery...so I have been told...
Another question...(I am not Catholic, btw) but I was always told unless you got married in the Church it wasn't considered a "real marriage" and so you could get divorced and remarry without an annulment...also, I was told that if you married a non-Catholic that it didn't count either...and it sounds like you may not be Catholic???...Also...I would agree with you that the "stain" she is concerned with is already there...
From what I have been told by other Catholics is that if you marry in the Church it is real...and if you get divorced then you would need an annulment to remarry in the Church again...but one of the spouses would have to be non-Catholic or commit adultery...so I have been told...
Another question...(I am not Catholic, btw) but I was always told unless you got married in the Church it wasn't considered a "real marriage" and so you could get divorced and remarry without an annulment...also, I was told that if you married a non-Catholic that it didn't count either...and it sounds like you may not be Catholic???...Also...I would agree with you that the "stain" she is concerned with is already there...
From what I have been told by other Catholics is that if you marry in the Church it is real...and if you get divorced then you would need an annulment to remarry in the Church again...but one of the spouses would have to be non-Catholic or commit adultery...so I have been told...
The only marriages that need to be annulled are those that are considered "official" by the church. Now, only one party needs to be Catholic to considered an official marriage. A priest needs to be in attendance at the ceremony, and counsel with the parties before the wedding.
Once the annulment is official, a Catholic is free to marry a Catholic or non-Catholic, so long as the wedding is conducted with the approval and attendance of a priest.
These are the rules as I understand them. I believe they are correct, but I could be wrong.
Sounds right to me. This is why I left the "church" don't get me wrong. I went through 8 years catholic school. I still believe in god. But I can't find any place in the bible that said Even though I committed not sin, and my wife abandoned our family,.( which I believe god witnessed from above). The only way I can get married in a church again is if I paid a priest (human) money. Ya right. Man sure did mess up a simple Moral life style. Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Anytime Mark... Everybody going through anything like this needs someone.
Do something that makes you feel good. If she is with her gf's as she says, then go do anything that brings you spirit up... like running if that does it for you. Do you have any male friends you can go out with? Or go to a local bookstore and read, go to a movie, I know not the greatest thing to do when your alone, but if its something you really want to see, then go for it... Just saw Harry potter.. it was awesome...side note..
Anyway, I know about those days, right here with you.
TAL
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
well I would do something fun with them. You sound like a really good father.. Get a funny movie and watch it with them, or do make your own sundae's or maybe take them out for pizza, or make your own at home??
Just thought I'd throw some ideas your way...
Have fun with your kids!
TAL
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
