Yeah, here it is almost 100 degrees, so it would have been miserable without the AC. I actually like to cut the grass. It is good exercise and I listen to music so I would usually do that even if he was here. Just try listening to music, it helps especially if you don't want to sit around just thinking.
I am going to try to just do nothing. I think I am over the initial shock of him leaving and I am not going to call him. I have managed to keep myself busy today. Yeah, it made me mad when he took the computer. It was the first thing he packed. I can give him space, and he has told me that he will continue to go to counseling. I will also continue to go. I am beginning to think that maybe his time in Iraq changed him.
We have a lot of colleges here too, but I think I would only do the roommate as a last resort. I will keep that in mind though. It was your husbands choice to leave right...so he shouldn't be bitter about you getting more income.
Has he filed for divorce? I do bet that he doesn't want you to get rid of it in case he does decide to come back. At least he doesn't want to get rid of it. That is good that he is on the medication for now. It will probably help him. My H started a prescription a couple of weeks ago. He was taking some kind of antidepressant before Iraq and ran out there, they couldn't give him another prescription so he hasn't taken anything for months. I think it will help. He seems to be depressed.
That's what I am trying to do, not argue. H actually looked pretty bad when he came over yesterday. He said he was hungry because he had no food. I told him that I didn't tell him not to buy food I just told him to stop going out to restaurants. Last week he was spending about 50 dollars a day on food until we had a talk. He agreed to quit spending money. He said that he couldn't buy food because the guy he was staying with didn't have a refridgerator. Oh well, figure something out. It actually helps me to see him struggle a little bit. Every other time I have seen him lately it has just seemed like it has been smooth sailing for him.
