It's a sand viper pit you're working in, no doubt! The sands can be deceiving and your guard must always be up. Don't worry about the family, she'll care for them. Worry about yourself and the people working for you, that's more than enough to fill your empty hours.
Please make sure that you put aside enough to support yourself when you get back. You won't cause the kids any hardship other than not being able to have McyD's as often and your peace of mind is MUCH more important.
You have to be alert and alive. Take care of you, your men and women and plan for the future. You will probably come back and live alone again, but don't let your personal life distract you from your most important duty.
I hate to say it but "Death is light as a feather, duty as heavy as a mountain". Do your best, and think kindly of your wife. She's, as you've pointed out, irrationally angry. Perhaps your term of service will help her see reality but if not don't take scraps when you go home. Make sure you have enough to live on comfortably, if she has to work harder it's her own d@mn fault.
See a foreign sunrise for me and know that this former service man thinks hard and long about all the men and women serving on foreign soil. I don't agree with the politicians, but I fully support every man and woman in the field. Peace and luck to you and the people serving with you.
