Hi, Me again. I am so glad that you got the AC fixed! This is the kind of thing that happens when you don't need it. It is in the high 80's here and humid. Great time to cut that grass in the sweltering heat here also. I hate cutting the grass, I regret not letting him do it. It was a 180 and I do not need any more think time while riding arround or using a gas push mower.

klm, maybe step back and do nothing for awhile. He has just moved out and time and patience are on your side. Rotten of him to take the computer. Try it for a month. Now is not the time to sell the house, change jobs, move etc. They all are right up there on that life stress scale. I think you need to give him some space and keep going to counseling. I think he will come back. You have the added military split while he was gone. This is roller coaster, complete with the pit in the stomach feeling. It is so hard. I think it was right to call him. I do that too about the house. Try not to show anger near him. It only justifys why they left in their screwed up brains. I say this because I have got mad when he has been here at house and it only prolongs things. Miss us, not hate us. Baby steps.

The roommate thing could be an option for me as we have a lot of colleges here and this is a high real estate and rental market as we are outside a large city. The only thing is that in these email settlement offers H keeps sending he puts in these too funny live in partner clauses. I did the research and Wi does not have that in divorces. He knows that if he is paying maintenance he does not want some guy living here with me on his money.... I said told him the words you are looking for is cohabitation as I may want to take in a female boarder. His answer was, why should you get more income if I am paying. He is angry because I told him in and out of counseling I have had enough and that I want this either end it or fix it, I am young enough at this point I could rebuild my life with someone else and still have a good 20 -25 years of happiness with someone else.. If you remarry you lose alimony.

I got a voice mail from H yesterday that said forget about freezing alimony at time of divorce, he will give me half of his increases. He wants me to keep this house, maybe so he can come back is my hope. I logged on here and checked our insurance. He filled a prescription for a new anti anxiety drug (probably to help sleep) and I see he went back to his therapist after about a month when we last saw him together. He also must have seen the shrink to get the med and he is still taking his lexapro. Thank goodness for the online insurance stuff, filled them yesterday and they showed up on online, This is good. He might be figuring out that I am not the complete cause of his unhappiness. I am on the advice of therapist to agree to prelim settlement stuff so he has nothing to argue with me and can sit in is dumpy apartment and maybe miss me and our life. Find out is anger is not all about me. That's my stuff. Hang in there. I am open to thoughts for me too from anyone on here.