hhmm, someone who likes to be praised for what they do followed with liking someone else to do it for them. Ha! maybe that's me!
Just rambling here...does your W get enough pamper time? time for just her to do what she wants? with a 'big' family and her FT job is she feeling used and abused by having to do it all? I know that's not true and you do a bunch around the place but what is her perception? Surprise her with a gift certificate for a massage or a pedicure or do a wholehog spa thingy. Would she use it and appreciate it?
I do sense more restlessness and 'got to see some change' in you Phoenix. You've come a long way here, you know it won't snap your fingers and happen overnight. Patience my friend.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.