Still haven't spoken to W since the day she moved out (about 5 days ago). Feeling lonely, shamed and losing hope. Getting tired of telling the news to folks who ask how we are doing and don't know the story. Wondering how in the world we would even begin to patch this back together if she did return. The drastic nature of her actions considering our problems seems to be so selfish, and I can't see how we could really put this past us to be stronger in the future. I actually think I could, if she were completely honest, remorseful and willing to work on our communication. I would still do anything to save our M, despite her quest to ruin it. W has been completely unreceptive to any attempts of our mutual friends to offer support. NC leaves me feeling isolated and alone, even with the many friends who call to see how I'm doing. Most want to see us work it out, but many are dumbfounded as to why she would do this, even knowing our history of arguing. NC seems to be only working against me as it just enables her to continue her mind game of blocking out all memories of us. From what I have heard, she seems to be on a downward spiral and there is nothing I can say or do to help her. I can't believe that after all of this I still want to work it out and save our M. Am I just a glutton for punishment? Should I call her and tell her where I am moving to or just do it and wait for her to contact me? I don't want to move to a new place, and I don't want to stay. The only thing that seems best for me right now is saving our M, which doesn't look promising, and I really don't WANT any of the choices I have left for myself. Has anyone else experienced a spouse of less than a year (or any length) completely withdrawing all emotion and leaving behind every single thing you have shared only to tell you they don't care what you do with it? And by the way, thanks to all for the advice on what to do with her "stuff", but she made it explicit that she wanted it no more. I have only put it in storage in case we work this out and she realizes how foolsih she was being.
