Separated - Trying not to call

[mkultra]

It seems hard to go dark when they are the ones who do not want initial contact but it really does give you back some control. It will get more encouraging when you stand up for yourself in this way. Infidelity is horrible and you have already seen your parents hurt by it. I do not think we choose cheaters, no. But my BF told me we sometimes we recreate the pain we wentthrough when we were younger to test how we would handle it. If that sounds like BS, sorry. I kind of hate psych babble but I do believe in therapy just to help with communication, not necessarily for marriage. See a therapist to work through the stuff with your parents. In the mean time do anything but persue, plead, or cry. Remember that is a turn off. Hold your head up high. It is not about the OP.