Irish- I'll preface this with the statement that I am NOT in a good frame of mind (H is moving out this weekend) and he just drove off to go out to the bars and I am here bawling my eyes out. 10 yr anniversary yesterday. He still sleeps in our bed and we still have a very active sex life. There is no OW, he just wants his freedom. (Check out my threads for background.)
Anyhoo-in the book Love Must be Tough, it says that you kick the adulterer to the curb. They are making their own decisions. Honestly, I don't know how you will be able to watch him do this. I think it is incredibly selfish and disrepsectful. Him being in your home means he gets to have you and the OW to get all of his needs met. So, instead of feeling how horrible it would be to be without you, he gets to take what he wants from you and then go and get other needs met by her. Sounds like the best of both worlds...FOR HIM!
As I said, I am not feeling sympathetic right now, and my H doesn't even have an OW; I can't imagine the horror of having it rubbed in my face.
Obviously, you have to do what's right for you; I don't envy your position now that he is back in the house. It's like ripping a bandaid off (again) slooooowllly.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
