Frustrated and Saddened #2

[Matt-14]

Thats alright Stewart, What time do you want me to meet you there? As if....I would sit next to a Yankees fan just when I thought my life couldn't get any worse!


I hope she goes with you but if not go it alone. Show her your not going to sit around and wait for her to do things!

Matt

[stewart10]

Well, just talked to her and we are leaving early tomorrow morning. I see that there are a few people from Maryland on this site, so if anyone is familiar with the Baltimore area, I would be looking for fun and interesting things to do (besides watch the Yanks sweep the O's... sorry M-14) to kind of change it up for my W.

Any suggestions on sites to see or places to eat would be great as it will be our first time in Baltimore. Thanks.

[Heimlich]

That's excellent! Even though I'm only about a 45 minute drive from Baltimore, haven't been there a lot. That said, a few thoughts, Matt probably has more (and better) ideas as a life-long Marylander:

1. Fells Point -- I think there are some pretty good restaurants here as well as lots of antique stores if you're into that sort of thing.
2. Inner Harbor -- shopping, walking around, water taxi.
3. In the Inner Harbor, there's some sort of sailing ship that you can go on. If you like that sort of thing.
4. As a big history guy, Fort McHenry is cool. See where the Star Spangled Banner was written (OK, look out into the bay toward the spot of water where it was written is, but you get my point)
5. Ask in your hotel where to get good crab cakes. I'm from Louisiana, and you can't beat the seafood from there, but Maryland crab cakes are pretty awesome.
6. I'd stay away from the aquarium. It's pretty nice, but on a weekend it's going to be packed with kids and frazzled parents.

BD

[stewart10]

Thanks Heimlich.
I will definitely check out the the inner harbor and fells point. And I was a history major in college so Ft. McHenry would be right up my alley. Although, I don't know how much she would like it.

[Heimlich]

Even without the history part of it, Fort McHenry looks out over the bay and is kindof pretty regardless. Also, doesn't take terribly long to go through. If you're a history major, worth going to since you're there. I want to say that the water taxi has a dropof there, but can't say for sure.

And if you're going to a game, Camden Yards is a very nice park. I find baseball pretty boring, but something about being at a game live in a park like that makes it enjoyable.

Have fun,

BD

[Atlas]

stew,

i'm so glad to her that she is going with you. enjoy the weekend, and don't read too much into anything and go overboard on her actions. no matter what keep your cool and most importantly enjoy yourself, she will see it and enjoy herself and then you can enjoy being with each other.

have a great time.

[stewart10]

almost had enough to drink tonight to throw everything in her face..... but not quite enough.. funny thing is, all night, I could not wait to get back here and post an update for those that are watching. Why can she be up all night when she is with her friends from work, but when she is with me, she sleeps all day and then can't stay out past 10??? I almost wanted to confront her tonight, ask her why things are the way they are.... but I don't. not getting me closer to my goals.... but I still don't understand... don't think I ever will. This used to never be an issue... now it makes or breaks our evening. She flat out hates me.... and for no reason that I can understand... I have been nothing but accommadating and loving for the past 5 months.... and she treats me worse than someone that she has known for less than one month. Why? Sorry to all those that have read this. Must have been depressing, as it is completely to me. WHY??????

[Atlas]

stewart,

man, sorry to hear your down. she has to get this out of her, don't let it kill you. keep asking the right questions, like your doing. is this moving me towards my goal, think before you speak and act. i know the drink is a downfall, oh i know. be careful with that.

i can't but help get excited that she is going with you on the trip. that is awesome. make it fun and have fun.

as for what she is doing, you don't know and honestly you don't want to know. worst case, well you know, but ask yourself is that a deal breaker. are you ready to throw in the towel. best case, she is venting and trying to let off some steam. don't worry about it until she brings it to the table.

[Heimlich]

I thought you were going to Baltimore this weekend? Did that not happen?

Why do you say she hates you? Sounds like she's definately confused and treating you poorly, but hate? Sounds a little strong from what you've related here.

Keep on the patience and getting back out and playing basketball as you mentioned a few posts back. The more threads I read through, the more it's apparent that the greater the changes you make to do things you've always wanted to do (or things you stopped doing, but once enjoyed) the more the S notices.

I know I sound like a broken record. Stop focusing on her. Focus on you. And Atlas makes a great point, decide what your deal-breaker is (also, if that deal-breaker should become reality, expect to find that it might not be a deal-breaker for you. That's what happened to me when my W told me about the A. I had always assumed I would just leave. Who knew?)

BD

[stewart10]

Yes, we did to go to Baltimore this weekend. Went to the Yankees-O's game. Things were pretty good. I was just a bit upset at our situation Saturday night and needed to vent a little, since I did not let on to her that I was upset. I just needed to get some of those things out so that I did not say something that I regretted.

Specifically what annoyed me was that on Thursday after work, she chose to go out with her friend from work even though her friend was sick at the time. Well, guess what, my W is sick this weekend, so we get down to Baltimore about 9:30 and walk around and grab a bite to eat for lunch and go back to the hotel at 12 and the entire time we are walking around, she is moaning and groaning about how she doesn't feel good. She proceeds to sleep because she does not feel good until about 5:30. So basically, all afternoon she is sleeping. I got up and walked around the city myself, but it just wasn't the same. Then Sunday, she sleeps until after 12, so again I had to get up and walk around by myself. But she did go with me to Fort McHenry on Sunday even though she still wasn't feeling all that good and she probably was not all that interested in it. We went out to eat in the city before we left so I could try some Baltimore crabs. So not all bad.

We have very busy couple of weekends coming up. This weekend is her sister in law's baby shower up in ma, then next weekend we have a wedding up in albany, followed by another wedding two weeks later in connecticut. So there will be lots more time spent together, at least at the weddings. She seems to be getting a bit warmer towards me lately, albeit very miniscule. But I am tuned in intently to notice even the small changes. We shall see how the next few weeks go.