Why do these things happen Vlll

[789]

I guess for the last month or so she shows no real emotion, never acts mad or angry, might smile and laugh at times. Does no emotion mean anything or just a normal state when going thru this.

[sadhearted]

Yeah see that's where my head is stuck. I care how this turns out and I'm having trouble walking around with an I'm okay no matter what attitude. Especailly now.

[789]

I am going to go read DR again and go to bed. Long week tiring week.

[sadhearted]

I hear ya.

[789]

Read DR again, I think I am at the LRT in regards to my situation.
I was really thinking it would not go this far but at the moment don't really see any other options.

[789]

I don't know why I cannot just let go. I think part of it is just the same old stuff, I know if she wanted to put any effort into our marriage it would, not could, turn out a wonderful and loving marriage. My first divorce was good for both of us and have no regrets that it happened other than we have a son together who does not have us together. This time I just see so much potential now if she would allow it.
With all that I have written in my threads, does anyone who has been keeping up see any hope, I actually don't care if it is minimal, at the moment I will take what I can get to keep my faith alive.

[sadhearted]

You told me once take the small steps cause you aren't going to get a big one right now. She still talks to you, she says things in front of your S no doubt knowing he'll tell you, as far as you can tell she didn't actually file. If we don't have hope then what do we have? I totally get where your coming from but somehow we have to keep our chins up.

[789]

That was true, but it has been awhile. Just her tone has become bland, no emotion what so ever. I think I am just getting lonely and frustrated. Haven't shed a tear in some time, but feeling like I am getting close again.

[sadhearted]

My H shows no emotions about us either. I heard him cry once on the phone about 2 weeks after he left. That's about it. I'm told it's because they don't want us seeing how they're feeling. They have to do this to back up what they're doing.

We can have a cry party if you want. I've been doing a lot of it the last couple days.

[789]

My H shows no emotions about us either. I heard him cry once on the phone about 2 weeks after he left. That's about it.

She hasn't cried in a since probably april, that I have seen.

I'm told it's because they don't want us seeing how they're feeling. They have to do this to back up what they're doing.

So does that mean it is better when they show no emotion? If they show emotion it could get a reaction out of us they don't want? I thought it was suppose to be happy or anger shown or am I wrong again like normal?

We can have a cry party if you want. I've been doing a lot of it the last couple days.

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