My father used to tell me that it was just as easy to fall in love with a rich woman as it is to fall in love with a poor one. I could have but I don't look back. My son the football player might not be as tall as he is today!!!!
IMP, the problem is that I am not a materialistic person. I like to live simply and can support myself. I don't need a man to take care of me or provide for me. I just want someone to be my best friend. I want someone who actually wants to spend time with me and is nice to me. My only big requirement is a man who is intelligent. To me, that is what makes a man sexy!
Struggling, I thought you already had a girlfriend!
Me45 H45 D13 S10 together-23 years married-21 years MLC Divorced 10/3/07 Married to a wonderful new man.
I always felt like I was pushing him to try to get attention. I have never had another long term relationship and wonder if there are really men out there that would want to spend that much time with their partner. I am just trying to picture a new life in the future and what the possibilities could be. I am also trying to get a non-idealistic view of what my marriage was like. I thought I had a happy marriage but maybe I just had a happy life.
Yes, exactly! I am in the same situation. H had this incredible need for attention and he typically put that first. When I needed it, he didn't have any left. Even when my father died. H was upset that he wasn't asked to sing at the service and that the quote my brothers and sisters and I chose for the headstone was not one he suggested. We spent a lot of time designing the stone and when I showed H the sketch of it he said "I don't really like it."
Funny how I start to remember things from the marriage that I'd pushed down b/c I couldn't let them surface or I would not have survived daily w/H. He is a good man, just not what I need.
Half, I want to be just like you when I grow up! And since my 1st appt w/attorney is Monday, I hope to grow quickly this weekend!
Hugs to you! And I LOOOOOVE Build-A-Bear!
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
Bam, best of luck. You can do it! As much as it was unfullfilling to be married to a Vulcan, I would have hated being married to Mr. Look-At-Me. One trick with the attorney is to let her say her spiel first and then ask your questions. (Note I am assuming you have a female attorney!) It goes much faster and you get to ask more questions in the end. Bring a list of questions with you and as she answers them, fill them in. You won't remember later if you don't.
Struggling, you know it wasn't really seven years. It just felt like it. If you really want to meet me, here is an intelligence test for you. Using the info in my old threads, you should know exactly where and when you could easily meet me. If that is too hard, you can always change your profile. I am up for making as many new friends as possible, even ones who happen to be male. I am no longer that vulnerable female I once was. I am planning on joining eHarmony this fall and having some fun in my life.
Of course in my heart, I am hoping IMP will take a road trip to come interview his potential sister wife and help me celebrate my freedom after August. We could watch old movies and have some great political/religious debates!
Me45 H45 D13 S10 together-23 years married-21 years MLC Divorced 10/3/07 Married to a wonderful new man.
I spent most of the day packing boxes of things for H. As I expected, he really doesn't want to take much. He is leaving a lot of his things for the kids, which is good. He doesn't really want his tools, but I know I have to go through them all at some time to organize them. I resent the fact that I am the one stuck with all this work, but I am not really surprised. The whole point of his crisis is to run away from responsibility. It still seems surreal.
Me45 H45 D13 S10 together-23 years married-21 years MLC Divorced 10/3/07 Married to a wonderful new man.
