It has taken you a long time to really open up here about your feelings. I've only been visiting the SSM since the beginning of this year and have learned and understood so much about both the mistakes I've made in my own marriage and the way to change them.
DIY has helped by his honesty and desires show me that ML is as much about the emotional connection for the man as the physical act itself. Despite everything he's not bitter hurt maybe but at least he's trying seems you've just given up.
Just as an aside words HURT even years later and conjure up bad memories. Thats why I hate the word frigid so much. Hate the word slut too but could start an entire thread on that one. Anyway back to the point.
When your wife said she was sorry she was so physical with you when you were first married did you actually tell her that was one of the things you most loved about being with her? Or did you ignore the remark and just let her think it didn't matter?
Cemar you are basically one of the "good guys" you haven't cheated ....yet... and deep down know you want to stay an improve your life and LL with your W so why keep fighting with everyone here to prove YOU'RE RIGHT and we are all wrong?
Why keep harping on about desire being so vital from your wife when you know without doing anything to change the dynamics of your present situation you are going to be here 6 yrs from now?
To be honest unless you try to change what on earth is the point of waiting 6 years to D your W? If anything it destroys older kids more than when they are young. They see what they thought of as a secure long term marriage as a sham. Suppose you do stay with your W eventually divorce have realy hot sex withsomeone new and get M again and it all turns to rat sh**. Suppose your new W changes you are back to square oneso why not try to work with what you@ve got? At least try nothing to lose everything to gain.
Please don't come back with but Deido says or blah blah blah says just friggin do something.
Look right now I'm so tired I'm off to bed and fingers crossed might get to ML with my H in the morning dpepending on how he feels LOL. No BJ's no anal sex just really connecting together.
