Sheer physicality

[MJontheMend]

Here's some more food for thought. I started out as Type 2, and became Type 1 as I gained familiarity and proficiency. Doubt I'm alone on that.

Excellent point. I would say the same was true for me except due to the fact I was precocious sexually (in much the same way that I was a precocious reader and not unrelated) I reached that point at age 16 when the Hispanic boy with whom I was having an "everything but" beach fling let out a long loud exclamation in Spanish when he came. When I asked him what he said, he told me that it was something like "Jesus Christ, I must take you home to meet my grandmother." I found that very validating and encouraging and also quite hilarious. I had my friends at the HD girl's lunch table shooting milk out their noses with that one.

I think the same can be said of most things people do or attempt. That is why I often make the analogy of sex being like swimming or dancing. People can develop the same kinds of fears or self-conscious behaviors regarding sex that they develop with these activities. I have to admit that one thing that I really hated about being in a SSM was that sex as an activity is something that I know that I'm really good at because I enjoy it so much, just like somebody might be a strong, natural swimmer, and I really missed the opportunity to simply do something I revel in more often.

It might be the case that one of the "truer" things that my 2bx ever said regarding our sex life was that he was jealous of the fact that I enjoyed sex more than him. Also, on one of the occasions he tried to hit on me after we split he,unbelievably, said that the sex was always great. I actually agreed with him. We did almost always at least attain the level of "hot monkey". It's really unfortunate all the ways things can go wrong in a sexual relationship.