His (lame) excuse was that he didn't want to have to deal with his XW. When his son was 12 H attempted to start the R again, but H couldn't follow through with that.
Sounds like your H has issues despite what he thinks was a bad M with you. Does he take some responsibility for the breakdown of the M? I guess being in MLC, they don't ever see themselves at fault, or they have justified it all by blaming the LBS.
IMO, you should go dark now, and have as little contact with him as possible. Before going dark, perhaps allude to the s*x, and how you will miss that connection with him, and then nothing else from you (just leave him with that thought, of something that was good), unless it's absolute business (finances, D13), but be polite, but distant and businesslike. Don't initiate contact, and if he phones, end it as soon as possible. Do not get into any reminiscing, because it doesn't seem to be going anywhere, so what's the point. Detach, detach, detach! And, leave the D problems to your H, unless you are absolutely over him, and want to move on compeletely. And, GAL!!!!! Do stuff, meet new people, get out there and have some fun!
Now, if only I can take my own advice. Ha!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
