Raped by her father, and by 2 other men. 3 out of control teenage kids she had out of wedlock, all from different fathers. Married to a guy who ended up cheating on her and leaving her. guy. A string of loser boyfriends who SHE spends money on.
All this before meeting you?
Talk about damage. A good psychotherapist might be in order here. She's a time-bomb waiting to blow up.
I don't think, without serious help, she can even begin to have any kind of healthy relationship with a man.
The only thing that will work for her is to marry a very strong, older (40-50 year old) patient man, who is willing to be father-figure to her kids, and who will share her faith and help her practice it with integrity. You see, by living with you in a state of "sin", she's consistently violating her conscience. These consistent violations cause her to allow other violations, like cheating on you. The whole relgious systems stands or falls together as a system. It's hard to be faithful to you while she's violating other aspects of her faith. In addition, her faith would tell her not to marry someone who wan't a Christian. Her marriage to you would be an act of disobedience. She'd end up feeling the need to pressure you to believe like she did. That would add more tension. And would you be ready to be a step-dad to three out of control teens?
This relationship is a mis-match on so many fronts.
Get your keys and things...forget about the money.
