Fearless DING DING DING. And the unfortunate thing here is that usually one person has to make the first step. And it truly sucks for you that since you are the one here you are the one who has to make the first step. I am not saying it's fair it just is what it is. Of course you could always refuse to make the first step and stay in the exact same place for another 4 years. Good beginning, the first step.
What happens in reality, the person that is here takes the first step, takes the first step over and over again. The SO thinks they don't have the resources to follow in the persons “first step” footprints or thinks that is not what they want so they drag their feet and balk.
They don't get it. They won't read any books. They are almost not interested beyond the point of doing the minimum, until the HD person radically changes the R, or is ready to end the R.
Ending the R almost happened to CDM34. It is happening to Choc (with other things thrown in) right now.
GEL talked about no more anniversaries unless something changed. Mr. Mojo was OK with a separation/D till Mojo started dating.
Sorry Fearless. I like reading your posts. They have a lot of wisdom. I think the "firs step" works for some couples, but too few for many of us that have been here a long time.
Now if you are saying Cemar needs to take some steps, rather than complaining, I agree with you.
