I will work on posting some ideas. but I've beenr rereading Happy_Again's threads from March so that I can quickly no where to go for reference when I want a MLCer example. The outline on my new thread--the first post--is an outline for PAving the Way--that is a safe path home. I haven't gone over each concept yet though.
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Happy_Again: I moved out and bought myself a condo.i never would have been able to get my head out from my ass if i had stayed at home. i needed my own place to retreat to. the funny thing was that i was so happy to be away from my home and be on my own in my own place.each time i went back to the family home to see the kids i didnlt want to leave again but i had to especially after all ofthe crap I had caused to my family.i couldn;t dare tell Allie that i wanted to stay a little while longer.sometimes i would go a week or more without going near the house it was so hard being torn like that.
He may be uncomfortable because he feels pressured. But he may be uncomfortable because he wishes he could stay...but MUST run. Sometimes, being around us can send them into panic mode because the pain when they are with us is raw with their self-loathing and guilt. They want to be around us, but it is a reminder not of how bad we are, but of how bad they are--in their minds.
