"2. How old is she? Who is her ex-husband? Why is she divorced? Or did she have these kids out of wedlock? Are they from the same father?"

She is 34. I'm 31. Three different fathers and all kids out of wedlock. One ex-husband that isn't father to any of the 3. She divorced because he cheated, she gave him another chance, then he eventually left her. There was a brief fling loser guy after that then me. She always told me she remained faithful during that marriage term. I knew her during that period, and we were close friends and I know she never with inappropriate with me.

"3. Her children are not going to live with her? Errrrr....what's up with that? Do you want to have children with a woman who is willing to abandon her own?"

She cannot have anymore children but I get your point. I have seen her try but she just doesn't seem to have a clue how to handle her kids. The oldest is most on track but confused sexually. Acts gay. Going to college maybe in the fall but absolutely no financial plan (he's just starting to apply for grants/loans). Middle child wants to be a criminal. He's already been arrested for breaking and entering and theft. Her youngest daughter looks MUCH older. She gives everyone the impression that she will be pregnant by 14 with her attitude. I agree. There is some faulty parenting there. That said, they just don't seem to ever stay home and stay out of trouble which is always her recommendation to them. A lot of sneaking out by the kids. Since she works a lot, they are able to get by with a lot.

"4. For now..I think you should set aside Divorce Remedy and read The Way of the Superior Man. Be clear about your own life, finances and goals and, I think, the rest will fall into place."

I'm much more clear than her with finances and goals. I own a radio station, and my intentions are to turn it into a radio station group. I had bought a 2nd and 3rd station but the expenses were so much greater in this other city and we didn't properly plan. Then we had an employee stealing from us and tons of other unforseen issues. Bottom line is that they were foreclosed upon. Now I'm back to just my first which was also the weakest performer of all of them. It's a little disappointing. It's a very small station. Hopefully someday I will be more ready and try expanding again. I will never make any kind of money with one AM radio station in a smalltown. I saw it as a good starting point.

"There might be abuse in her past, she might have come from a broken home. It's not that she can't be healed, but, for the time being, her psychological DNA is pretty messed up."

I've come to agree with this as well. She did have a hard past. She was raped by her father at 13. He used some kind of medical thing to brace his neck on his bed when he slept and asked her to try it out. When she did this he restrained her and proceeded. She's told me about two other rape experiences in her teenage years as well.

It seems like she is pure and good when she is sticking with her church then has setbacks and turns briefly away and makes all wrong choices. I thought I could turn some things around but they were bigger than me.

Close to 3pm Friday and she still isn't home. Even if she comes home, I've decided not to persue any legal remedies or force promissary notes today as it just wont make anything any better (today). I can wait a while. I do know where she works and can maybe send a letter/notice there in a couple weeks or something. I am struggling financially but I understand it'd be petty/needy looking to run over there and try to start something like that today. If she uses the keys inappropriately and I find out, I can always involve the law, and I'll just try not to stray too far from my house/business to leave either too vulnerable.

Thanks for your inviation to talk privately too. I'll keep it in mind.