Well it seems the talk that we were going to have is not going to happpen now. I got a txt message from W today saying that she has spoken to a lawrer today & she has been advised that I file for the D. I considerd this for about an hour then decided to call W, I was polite & carm through out the call. My W was the same although she did sound upset. As you'll see her excuse for not wanting to talk is, she can't find the time. I would just like to point out that she is living about 10-15 mins car ride away. How much time does one need?
This, to the best of my tired memory, is how the call went..
Me: Hi, I just called to ask if you still intend talk about this? W: Well...erm, it's just trying to find the time. Me: Ok, that's no problem. W: Ok, but what hours are you working next week? Me: 6am - 2 pm all next week. W: oh..ok.... Me: If you don't want to talk about this I understand..Do you feel there is anything to talk about? W: I don't know.......I don't know......Do you want me to come? Me: If you feel there is anything we need to talk about? W: I don't know. Me: Ok, let me just say that this is not my choice, it is yours, I would prefer a different outcome to D. However I will respect your choice 100%. If D is what you want then I would prefer that you file. W: The lawer say's you have to file against me though. Me: If D is truly what you want then please file for Unreasonable behaviour. W: But that would not be right, would it? It would not be true. Me: It does not matter if it's true or not, if D is what you want then please file.
The call sort of ended there as I could tell my W was upset, she was not crying, but I could tell in her voice. I don't have any regret for how the call went. I don't know what to make of it but I do think D is what she does want, but does not want to file against me. I think my W cares for me & does not want to cause further hurt or thats how I felt during the call.
I wanted to put the ball back into her court for her to pick up. I wanted her to see that this is not as easy as me filing against her & her signing. I wanted to make her see that she has to do the work & move the ground to get what she says she wants. As it stands now I don't know if she will file or not, if she does then I will know it is what she wants & she will do whatever to get that.
