Okay,

I got it you moved out because the tension was bad. I agree you did the best thing. Be there but don't chase, sounds like she wants to love again but doesn't know how. It takes a while for the person wanting out to figure out their feelings. Chances are if you make changes and focus on the kids and yourself she will come around. I would drag my feet on the divorce thing if you could help it! Give it time, sounds like she is trying to come to terms with things.

Here is what I went through, thought it was over my feelings were dead, next I have to get out of here I can't take the pressure. Then what am I doing I love my W. and family and don't want to lose them. I move back in to find that my wife may not want to be with me anymore and doesn't feel she can talk to me. I love you but I am not in love with you! Anyway point being it takes some time for the WAS to figure out what they want.

Although you moved out she is still the WAW. To answer the question though you did the right thing.


Married:10 years
D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took
Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!