Originally Posted By: Rollercoasterider What is it in your insticts that tell you he's not coming back...
Just by the tone in his voice when he told me that since we've been apart far too long he didn't see us working out.
Sweetie, that is his tone, not your instincts. And this far along...many of them look to the LBS for that sort of guidance...they cannot believe it on their won. They must see that belief and faith in us first.
And when they do...they may be scared at first...because there are no guarantees and it may still not work. If you show hope, anticipation, expectancy, excitement...they may run...better that than try and let us down AGAIN by failing.
Our job is to make them feel safe...safe saying No for awhile. Because if they can tell us No and we are fine with it...they will eventually feels afe saying Yes, I'd love to...come over, meet you for coffee...whatever.
