Yeah, the snooping thing can be addicting. I get that - but it's a very unhealthy form of dependency you are flirting with there. Step back from it for a bit - do you want to be the kind of person who spies on their spouse? Do you think that this is an attractive or desirable trait? Would YOU be attracted to someone who spied on you?
As far as OM's wife - well, here's a thought. Rather than letting her lead you down the path that damages the R, why don't you point her towards reading DR and see if you can join forces to DB both of the crazy people at the same time? They won't know what him 'em!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!