My marriage is hopeless V

[Hope_11]

She had the A, she filed for the D.... this is why I say she gets a pat on the back for destroying our family.

I understand the frustration...our WAS aren't seeing any repercussions of choosing to break our marital vows. I guess that is where we have to put it all in the higher power that things will work out. We did right...we tried...we forgave...we put everyone else first. The court system is very frustrating especially when there are no children involved that need to be protected. I do not feel that my H should be entitled to 50% of everything that we had because he chose to leave me and our life. I don't feel like I owe him anything, especially not 1/2 of my 401(k). I know the court system is out to protect, but it seems like all too many times the people that are benefitting are the ones that shouldn't be. I hope me and H can end our D out of the courts. I deserve to walk away with more than my fair share. A little bit of me actually feels guilty, but then I step back for a second and think...no, I shouldn't feel guilty...H is still with OW and right now anything that he is getting is to start his new life with OW. If he would have had any respect for me, he would have broke it off with OW 8 months ago. He's a grown man and he made his choices and he can rebuild his life on his own.