Guess my thread locked Monday, when I was in San Diego. Not sure why Still and Sunny kept it a secret. Way behind on journaling, so will try to catch up on that later. Also, want to respond to Sven's post (and others) on my last thread, and I will later. Finally, I need to get back into some of y'all's sitches. I have been following most of my friends, just haven't posted much. Also need to check in on some of these newbies. Hope everyone is doing well!
Onward and upward, Nomopo
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Here is a summary of my sitch:
Me: 39; WAW: 38 Married: Nov. 1997 (began dating Dec. 1993). First marriages for both. Son (just turned 7) and daughter (4). Initial Bomb: May 8, 2005 (Mother's Day and D's birthday) Traditional couples therapy started: Dec. 2005 "Maybe we should call it quits" Bomb: Jan. 22nd (aka "looking into the [divorce] abyss"); W not working on M Emotional Affair discovered: Feb. 22nd Ultimatum regarding EA given: Feb. 29th Response ending EA, but not working on M, given: Mar. 4th Divorce Busting begins ("rookie league"): April 10th Solutions-Based, Goal-Oriented Therapist found: April 12th (Wife is going now!) "Should we explore a separation?": May 10th "I want a "trial" separation": May 22nd Told kids about separation: June 9th (6:00 pm) Separation implemented: June 11th
"We have no spark and there is no hope." "We both deserve more." "I am sad all the time." Depression? "It's not my fault that it took 15 months of therapy for you to have a breakthrough and finally understand what you were doing and how unhappy I am." "I do not see any hope of you changing and us being happy together."
Way behind on journaling, so will try to catch up on that later. Also, want to respond to Sven's post (and others) on my last thread, and I will later. Finally, I need to get back into some of y'all's sitches. I have been following most of my friends, just haven't posted much. Also need to check in on some of these newbies. Hope everyone is doing well!
